Lie number eight: They remind themselves, “Love or, in a handful of instances, respect means you looking up to me.”
They have a very poor idea of what love or respect entails. To them, they can’t even imagine that it would entail them extending kindness not manipulative kindness or consistent decency, graciousness, or mercy to fellow human beings. All lost on the narcissist. It’s like, “No, I just want you to admire me. That means we have a love relationship. You defer to me. You think I’m the greatest.”
Lie number nine: They say to themselves, “Giving is overrated.”
They might give during the love-bombing phase, or they might give and assist another so that they get not just favor, but to call in some chips so you now owe them. But just as far as merely being the one who gives, the service, goodness, and kindness for the sake of being that kind of individual, they would be like, “No, you bring the service to me, but I’m not going to do it.” Or, if they’re the person who is supposed to be the servant, there is always going to be something dangling on the hook. Forget them being an actual giving and serving individual because there isn’t that much to gain in it for them beyond you owing them something.
Lying number ten: They lie to themselves by saying, “My past errors must be forgotten.
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