Number 8: You’re a people pleaser.
You want to be liked and you try to make sure everyone around you is happy, and you don’t want to rock the boat or say anything that might hurt someone else’s feelings. You go out of your way to make sure everyone has what they need, and you often sacrifice yourself to help others. Tend to be selfless, giving, and caring in your relationships, it may be because you have the desire to feel loved and accepted.
Narcissists are often attracted to people pleasers because they find them easy targets. Someone who is always putting others first is likely to put up with more than someone who isn’t so giving. Narcissists see this as a weakness. They will use your selflessness against you by demanding your time and energy while offering little in return. They will also try to convince you that everything they do is for your good, even if it means hurting someone else or taking advantage of you, and then blame their behavior on their feelings for you.
Number 9: You validate them.
Narcissists are always looking to be validated. They want to be told how great they are, how much they matter, and how much you love them. Because they’re so self-centered, they want that validation to come from everyone. The problem is that they don’t believe it unless it comes from someone else.
If you tell a narcissist that you love them, care about them, or think their life is important and meaningful, you give the narcissist the validation that they seek. Narcissists are attracted to people who validate them, they want to feel like they’re right. They want you to agree with them, so they can feel good about themselves. Narcissists thrive on praise, so you will turn your head pretty quickly if you compliment them, or tell them how amazing you are.
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Number 10: You’re perceptive and empathetic.
Narcissists like people who can read their moods, understand their feelings and empathize with them if they don’t care about them. The narcissist knows that you’ll rush over to comfort them if they act sad or upset. They also know that you’ll be excited for them if they act happy and excited about something. You notice things that others don’t, and you care about the feelings of those around you.
Narcissists want someone who will listen to their problems, offer advice and support, validate them, and make them feel good about themselves. They are drawn to the caring, giving nature of empaths because they can use their feelings against them. They know how to push all of your buttons, and they love doing it because it gives them power over you.
It is easy to attract narcissists, and for those who have trouble resisting them, knowing the cause of their attraction can go a long way to help you. Now that you understand why you attract narcissists, make sure you move away from anyone who makes you feel that way. If they keep pushing you to get to do things their way, it’s time to move on and walk away.
Read More: 10 Ways To Stop Attracting Narcissists.
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