Number 9: Stop seeing red flags as green flags.
If only what you saw was really what you got. In the situations of narcissists, personalities change significantly depending on the situation. A narcissistic red flag to consider is how they treat others privately. While they may be constantly respectful and charming in public, They are constantly abusive and demeaning. You may experience the love bombing stage and consider that as a green flag, and you may be even isolated from friends and family, thinking that spending time with them will be better.
Assess more about the behaviors people share with you, either publicly or privately. Well, it’s easy to dismiss red flags, especially when a person appears so well to others; trust your instincts and act. A healthier relationship will not feel that something is wrong even if you believe there is.
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Number 10: Stop blaming yourself, love yourself more.
One of the most heartbreaking stories of staying with narcissists is that they eventually blame and hate themselves. keep your sense of self intact and start thinking about how amazing you are. We’ve all had moments when we think we’ve got it all figured out, and our minds race with negative self-talk again. The best thing you can do is try to catch yourself and remind yourself why you are fantastic. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses to be kinder to yourself (instead of focusing on only one).
Get to know yourself, who are you? What is most important to you? What are your life priorities? What motivates you to get out of bed in the morning? Why do you enjoy what you do? When you know what you want, you know who you are. When you live yourself more and stand up for yourself, you don’t attract narcissists, for they don’t love themselves in the first place.
There’s no denying that narcissists can cause conflict and problems in relationships, so it’s essential to understand what attracts them. This way, You can focus on improving those things and avoiding similar pitfalls. You need to focus on improving your self-image and emotional state. Reduce the shame in your life, practice kindness towards yourself and others, and strive for authenticity.
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