Number 6: Keep your distance.
If things start to get worse, it is best to maintain your distance and take some time away from your mother, especially if she is being violent or abusive. You need to do the things you have control over to maintain your peace and stepping away is one of them. The only way to grow and stay happy while living with a narcissistic mother is to not live with her, and get away. At least until she has sorted her priorities out. Which… might take a while, Don’t try to fix her.
Being a good, caring child, you may feel the need to make things easier for your mother even if she hasn’t been nice to you. Even though nobody is stopping you from doing that, you should know that it is not your responsibility to do it. She is not going through a complex math problem that she needs your help to solve. You can’t change her personality or make her into a completely different person in a matter of days. She may not have had a happy childhood herself. This means that she might not be likely to just heal from it. What you can do is try to make her understand or maybe help her be conscious of her doings.
Number 7: Don’t expect her to say sorry.
Now you might be thinking that when your mother realizes that she isn’t playing her role well, she might come to you and apologize – well, that might not always be true. Narcissists have a hard time admitting their mistakes and apologizing for them, so you’d be in for a long wait. It is better to not expect an apology from her; she might try to justify her behavior but you need to know better than that. She’s not the victim, you are. She might think that she’s the one who is being mistreated but she is not, she is the one who has been uncaring and unkind and maybe even abusive.
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