Number 3. The grand party, a farewell tour
When narcissists sense the crumbling on the horizon, some don’t look away. Instead, they do something that appears counterintuitive: they party a party, a going-away party, a public, notice-taking celebration that’s designed to say to the world, “Look how loud I am! It’s not about happiness; it’s not about community; it’s optics. They know something is going to come. Perhaps it’s a split-up. Perhaps folks are beginning to question. Perhaps their reputation at work is starting to crumble. Whatever it is, they sense it. So they attempt to fill the space with sound before the quiet arrives.”.
A party becomes their final campaign, one last shot to gather support, to charm the people who are on the fence, to convince themselves and others that everything is fine. I’ve seen it happen. I’ve watched someone throw a lavish birthday party days before being outed for abuse. They welcomed everyone, didn’t spend a dime, made sure the photos were plastered everywhere, and even gave emotional speeches thanking individuals for being on their journey. But it wasn’t a journey or gratitude; it was keeping up that image before it fell apart. This kind of move is dangerous not because it’s powerful, but because it’s disorienting.
Everyone sees the smiling faces, the laughter, the gleaming prettied-up figure of the narcissist, and wonders about the things they’ve heard. That uncertainty is effective, sadly, on the narcissist’s behalf. They want to drown your voice beneath cheer. They want to blur the truth with sensationalism. And long after the party’s over, its glow endures. Photographs go on the wall. Comments roll in: “You look so happy! “You’re such a light, aren’t you? ”
And they eat it up like fuel, because they know what’s coming, and they want something beautiful to point to when the ugly truth finally breaks through. But the harsh reality is, truth doesn’t get erased by celebration. It just waits. And when the crowd leaves, when the music dies down, when they’re finally alone, they feel it: the hollowness of the silence, the fear.undefinedThey can try to rewrite the story, but they cannot rewrite the ending once you’ve walked away for good.
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