Number 1: The devastation of pregnancy sabotage.
They robbed you of the beauty of pregnancy. Pregnancy is meant to be one of the most beautiful, sacred phases in a woman’s life, but with a narcissist, that beauty is turned into a battlefield, isn’t it? For them, pregnancy isn’t something to honor; it is a strategy, it is a finish line. Once you are pregnant, once they believe you’re trapped, they show you who they truly are.
The mask slips, the charm vanishes, and suddenly, you are no longer their beloved; you are a vessel, a tool, a burden. I have never met a narcissist who did not sabotage the pregnancy experience in some form, and they do it with precision. They cheat while you are pregnant, not because they are starved for affection. They say so, they do it because they want to humiliate you at your most vulnerable. They want you to feel unlovable while you are performing the most sacred act a body can endure.
They mock your cravings, dismiss your exhaustion, roll their eyes at your emotions, and slowly chip away at your sense of worth. And then, just when you think it couldn’t hurt more, postpartum arrives like a storm. Your body is bleeding, your mind is spinning, you haven’t maybe slept in days, you’re sore, you’re swollen, and you’re still expected to hold everything together. But where are they? That’s the question gone, distracted, cold, maybe sleeping with someone else.
While you’re handling, they are betraying; while you are surviving, they are withdrawing. They do not look at your body with awe or wonder for what it survived; they look at it with sheer disgust, as if it inconveniences them. They ask, “When will you lose the baby weight?” They stop touching you, they stop seeing you, they stop showing up, not because you have become less, but because your body no longer feeds their ego.
And that is the part which is the most destructive: it is the timing of it, the cruelty of it, the way they withhold love exactly when you need it the most, the way they look away when you’re silently screaming for connection.
They did not just neglect you; they desecrated something holy. They turned your transformation into trauma; they stole what was supposed to be yours, the beauty, the reverence, the love, and replaced it with shame. This isn’t about mood swings or communication issues; this is pure emotional theft.
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