There is a reason why one forgets s£x with a narcissist immediately and cannot stand it later. It wasn’t about pleasure. It was about power, control, seduction of pulling you so far into their universe that you couldn’t distinguish between desire and destruction. To the rest of the world, they are magnetic, seductive, even irresistible. But when they’re in the comfort of their own homes, by themselves, their bedroom activities are a lot darker than you could ever imagine. It’s dehumanizing. And these are the five s£x secrets they hide from you because once you know, you’ll never see them in the same light again. So let’s discuss the secrets in order. One, they’re s£xually fluid but not like you’d wish to envision.
Number 1: The hollow s£xual fluidity
What does “s£xual fluidity” make us think of?
We associate it with openness, freedom, or genuine exploration of one’s s£xuality, don’t we? But in the narcissist’s world, it doesn’t come from that. For them, s£xual fluidity is not identity-driven. It’s a matter of usefulness. Most narcissists, though not all, have no real s£xual preference. They don’t have a static s£xual sense of self. Their s£xual identity is situational. Whether you are young, old, married, or vulnerable, it doesn’t matter. Whether you’re a man, woman, or non-binary, it doesn’t matter. Whether you’ve got a hole, they’ll use it.
Sorry, that’s just the way it is. If you’ll give them credit, they’ll perform for you. If you make them your worship, they will be anything you want them to be until they drain you dry. That is why their s£xuality is empty. They are not being themselves. Their passion is not of desire. It is shape-shifting, much like the rest of their personality. One day, they are a controlling lover who overwhelms you. The next day, they are submissive and yielding, as if they need you. But it’s always from nowhere, as I’ve mentioned, since there isn’t a s£xual self. That is why, regardless of how frenzied and brutal the s£x becomes, there’s always something lacking.
There’s no depth, no soul, only an imitation of what intimacy is intended to be. And yet, several of you will whine, “Then why did it feel so strong to start with? Why did it feel like the best s£x of my life?” That is because they have rehearsed and rehearsed with other bodies, other minds. They have experimented on others, like laboratory toys, to discover their secrets. They don’t connect with their bodies.
They connect with yours. They watch your breathing, your body movement, your sighs, and reflect it to you until you reach, understand, and are recognized. It’s a false vow. They’re not relating, aren’t they? They are gaining information, tactics, and techniques. And which leads us to secret number two: S£x is only an act and a distraction.
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