Number 4: S£xual sadism and power dynamics
Number four, they’re s£xual sadists, and they get their sustenance from your pain. S£x to most narcissists is a method of controlling you on the most intimate possible level when you are most receptive, most vulnerable, most emotionally bare. You’ve seen how they simply want to have s£x with you right after a violent fight, after yelling at you, blaming you, destroying you, when you’re still weeping, when your body is shaking, your breathing shallow, your soul is broken. That is wicked. That’s the wickedness I am referring to. To a sadistic narcissist, your tears on your face are stimulating. Your pain, your loss, your shame, it is a turn-on.
There is a certain satisfaction, a certain satisfaction born of an ugly need, that they gain from watching you stripped bare. It is evil. It’s sick. And most of all, it is intentional. They don’t just want to have s£x with you then. They want to defeat you, own you, use your body to siphon the energy they just drained from you emotionally. That is why the post-fight intimacy feels so weird, so intense, but so violated because you didn’t want it. You were bullied. You were guilt-tripped. You were too tired to say no, too scared to fight, too broken to resist.
And if you did fight, what was done to you? They went cold or punished you in the moment, vanished for days, or warned you to cheat or accused you of manipulation, of withholding. The narcissist rewrites the narrative so that even your body is something they must dominate. Your boundaries? Inconvenient. Your consent? Oh, that’s something they negotiate. Your pleasure? Irrelevant. What’s important to them is power: Who’s on top? Who’s begging? Whose surrendering? And when they witness you capitulate not in passion, but in submission, that is when they thrive.
Do not be so foolish as to think this is a s£x fetish or kink. This isn’t enjoyable. This is about violating you at your weakest point. This is about loving your wounds, not your heart. And at its core, they know it. That’s why they’ll never say anything. That’s why they’ll act as if you desired it. Because if they said what happened, they would have to say they get off on breaking you.
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