Sign 5: Extreme yet hidden se**xual abuse
Number five, they rewrite the whole narrative to get away with extreme yet hidden se**xual abuse. They put you through it. If you start to heal, if you start finding joy and intimacy, let’s say, reclaiming your pleasure or even just feeling more confident in yourself, they twist it against you.
They start using adult content as a weapon, comparing you to unrealistic standards, subtly suggesting you are not somehow enough. They will mention how confident or adventurous others are, planting seeds of doubt about your desirability.
They bring up fantasies inspired by the content they consume all the time. You know what I’m talking about- implying you fall short of their ideal. If you hesitate, they shame you, saying things like, “Why can’t you be more like so-and-so? Why can’t you be open-minded? Others don’t have an issue with this.”
They make you feel like you are prudish or not good enough for them. If you somehow express discomfort, they will dismiss it as insecurity, framing you as the biggest problem in the room. They will call you by names derived from explicit content, reducing you to an object.
They blur the line between reality and fantasy because their life is a living fantasy. They make you feel inadequate for not matching what they see on a screen. Over time, you start feeling like you are not enough or that you become that because all the time, you’re trying to meet their impossible standards just to keep their interest.
But it’s not about your pleasure or connection. It is about their evil agenda. When you are insecure, they have power over you. But when you start reclaiming yourself, that power crumbles. So they punish you. How? By withholding affection, using comparisons to break you down, making you feel like your confidence is a big threat to the relationship. Therefore, it should be erased.
The message is clear: Stay insecure. Stay controllable. That is the name of the game.
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