Number 2: Honesty – what’s that?
One of the founding pillars of any relationship is the mutual support of each other. Since we already mentioned that narcissists can’t do that very well, let’s discuss the second and equally important pillar of any relationship, which is honesty.
We are all humans, and one of the defining traits of every human being is their vast amount of shortcomings. In a healthy relationship, people can and should tell others the truth, and together they can tackle those shortcomings and mitigate their effects. Working out what is wrong with you and then trying to change that is the reason for most types of relationships. But do you know when you can’t change yourself for the better?
When you don’t even admit that you have any shortcomings. What’s the first step in overcoming any problem? Acknowledging that you have a shortcoming. And guess who can’t do that? That’s right, people with NPD can’t do that.
Admitting their flaws is just one side of this problem. Since truth is often bitter, narcissists prefer to lie and avoid that bitterness for as long as they can. If your parents were lying a lot, even when it came to seemingly menial things, that is a very good sign that they had a hard time acknowledging the truth and that itself is a good sign that they were narcissists.
Number 1: They did nothing wrong.
We’ve talked a lot about what narcissists want and what they might do to get what they want. But there is another question: what are they afraid of? Why are they seeking validation all the time? Well, the main aspect of narcissistic personality disorder is the sense of shame or inadequacy, usually both, which fuels their every action.
When we pointed out the fact that your every achievement was because of them, and every struggle was just your fault in your eyes, that is not where that stops. If they mess up something, that is also other people’s fault, and it doesn’t matter that every time they mess up it’s never their fault. Denying their mistakes, blaming other people, and sometimes lashing out to stop the situation that’s making them uncomfortable. What this means is the simple fact that people with NPD will never admit that they did anything wrong.
This also includes acknowledging their shortcomings when it comes to parenting, and what it means is that your parent didn’t try to become better at being a parent. Letting them know that they treated you unfairly will likely not affect them since they did nothing wrong.
Read More: 10 Mental Illnesses You Get From Narcissists.
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