Number 5: Talking about children is Narcissists’ Hate
When your children love and admire you, a narcissist becomes angry. They do not appreciate your relationship with your children, and if your children enjoy spending time with you, it is being threatened by them.
For regular folks, it’s a blessing and a relief when kids and both parents get along. When your children are in the other parent’s custody, you know they’re safe, and it gives you a break you so badly need to do something for yourself or take care of other responsibilities. But to a narcissist, this is something that they will go out of their way to destroy, because it means that their control is not total.
Co-parenting should be a cooperative effort where both parents collaborate for the sake of their children. All the children must be accounted for and involved by both parents. A narcissist may claim they believe so, yet the actual truth is that they do not like it when their children prefer spending time with you. If divorced or separated, and the children live with one parent, they will be punished when they want to talk or miss the other parent. But rewarded when they become angry with the other parent. To a narcissist, all is competition, even where love and affection towards their children are concerned.
If you’re still enduring this situation, you should be conscious of these dynamics. You should notice how your partner might be undermining your authority at home, particularly if you’re the breadwinner. Notice if your respect and the love that you deserve as a mother are being stripped away from you. Being conscious of these behaviors is the first step in defending yourself and your children.
Discovering the source of the dysfunction is the initial step toward empowering your children to perceive family life in a positive manner and both parents from an even perspective. If you have no idea what is occurring, all they will ever be aware of is the dysfunction of the narcissistic parent.
I know it’s hard because if you’re dating a narcissist, you can’t be objective about things. You’ve likely been manipulated so long you can hardly even pretend to be an adult, much less learn to take care of your children. But they do need you. If you don’t intervene, they might learn to believe it’s okay that the way they’re behaving is the way it always has to be.
These are five things narcissists detest but that healthy individuals adore, and I wish what tips I’ve given will encourage you to begin changing. It’s a steep climb, but through insight and planning, you can put your children on a healthier path of knowledge regarding relationships and family.
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