Number 1: Your absence haunts them
Narcissists always assume you will never leave them. They believe they have done everything to trap you, be it financially, emotionally, through a child, or maybe even by marrying you. They discard you, expecting you will crumble, fall apart, even when you walk away. They do not truly believe it is real. In their mind, it is just temporary, just a phase that will pass, because to them, you belong. You’re not a person; you are an extension of their ego. They do not believe you have the strength to fully detach.
But when you do, when you go no-contact, when you truly stop reacting, when you stop looking over your shoulder, hoping deeply they will change, that is when it hits them. You’re gone, and nothing they do can bring you back, no fake apology, no chaos. You don’t bite, you don’t respond. You have outgrown the cycle, and that realization that you are surviving without them sends chills through their system. It makes them feel like a total failure, not just because you walked away, but because it bruises their ego in ways you can’t even imagine.
It reminds them that all the years of effort to condition you, to control you, to make you think everything is your fault and you are the crazy one, have gone to waste. Narcissists hate hard work, and losing a well-trained supply like you is a massive loss, because whether they admit it or not, you are irreplaceable. Your absence becomes a constant reminder that they lost control over something they thought they built and owned. That emptiness you used to feel when they gave you the silent treatment?
They feel it now. And what’s worse than that? Because you are not ignoring them to punish them, you are gone because you are healed, and there is no greater punishment than that. You will heal, you will grow, but they are going to stay the same, stuck, hollow, and haunted by the space you left behind.
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