Number 4: Public performances and scapegoating
Ever had a narcissist stage a drama in a store? They’ll loudly argue with the cashier, mock the employees, or act superior about everything from product quality to store layout, and when things don’t go their way, they use you as the punching bag: “I told you this was a bad store. You should have stopped me from coming here. You never help, do you? You just stand there like a statue.”
On the flip side, if they are in a charming mood, they will turn it into a performance complimenting strangers, acting extra generous, paying for others, or pretending to be the kind, compassionate person that they are not, but they will ignore and humiliate you in private. It is literally like watching somebody with multiple personalities inside of them, and they put on a heavy mask. They wear it just long enough to fool others, but when it slips, you are the one who gets blamed for ruining the illusion.
Number 5: Money as a weapon
Money becomes a weapon when you shop with a narcissist. They will remind you how hard they work, how much they sacrifice, how much you cost them. Even if you are earning too, they will find a way to make it seem like they are carrying the burden of your existence. They don’t want you to feel secure or free when it comes to money; they want you to feel indebted, cautious, or afraid.
Shopping becomes a ritual of shame. Essentially, you will start second-guessing everything you pick up. You’ll feel the urge to explain your choices, to seek permission to avoid triggering another meltdown. Over time, you lose the ability to buy things with confidence, even for yourself. That is how deep the conditioning goes, and the worst part is, if you don’t buy anything, they will accuse you of being boring, unattractive, or not taking care of yourself. It is a lose-lose game designed to keep you stuck.
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