Number 2: “Why do you keep discarding me and then coming back around?”
This is for the narcissists who discard and then hoover that is, they’ll end the relationship, usually in a very brutal and sudden way, and then they’ll come crawling back days, weeks, or months later. But the narcissists who discard and Hoover can’t, for the life of them, explain why they’re doing it. They’re back because they realize you’re their soulmate, and they were just too distracted to see it before, or at least that’s what they want you to think. Ask them at any other time when they’re not actively hoovering, and they’ll probably just shrug it off and call the question ridiculous:
“Why do you ask such ridiculous questions?” Or, and this is common, they’ll blame it on you: “I really want to be with you, but I just can’t stand when you hold me accountable.” They won’t say that; that last part was a bit of truth seeping in. Whatever answer they’re giving you gives the impression that they’re really trying so hard, but it’s not working because there’s something wrong with you.
Understand that there’s nothing wrong with you. Sure, you’re not perfect, but this whole discard and Hoover thing isn’t because of anything you’ve done. It’s the way the narcissist operates; it’s the way they have to operate, and you would have ended up here no matter what you said or did.
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