Number 7: Setting you up to fail.
The last trick that we’ll discuss that the narcissist may use to make you look like the problem is maliciously setting you up to fail. They can do this a couple of ways; also they can come across as if they’re lending help in hand meanwhile sabotaging your efforts behind your back so that when it’s all said and done you look like the problem or the reason that the goal was not met.
They can meticulously put you in situations in which you have no chance of winning and when you don’t win (like they knew you wouldn’t or couldn’t), they’ll blame you for failing. They could even set you up in simple ways such as hiding your keys and coming through with the spare set to save the day.
Making you look absent-minded and careless and making yourself look like the responsible one in the relationship. Another example is they can tell you the wrong time to be at a time-sensitive event, so you look irresponsible and inconsiderate when you show up late. If they can make you look careless and absent-minded in the relationship, it can eat your confidence and self-esteem making you feel like the problem.
If they can get others to see how you feel about meeting obligations (not knowing behind your back you’re being sabotaged by the narcissist). This can make you look like the problem. If you’re dealing with a narcissist they’ve likely used some combinations of these tricks on you without you even realizing it to make you look like the problem.
Now that you understand what has happened, you must continue to move forward and educate yourself about narcissism. This will not only help you heal, but it will help you see the warning signs in other relationships.
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