Number 6: Using dating apps for validation.
This one shatters hearts quietly because it’s a hidden betrayal. While you’re dreaming of your future together, they’re swiping. While you are planning vacations, they’re building profiles. They are not doing it to find love, because you’re there. They’re doing it to feel wanted, to remind themselves they still have options, that people still find them attractive, that they are still in demand. You could be the most loyal, giving, sacrificing, emotionally available partner they have ever had, and still they will do it.
Because it’s not about you; it’s about filling the void inside them that no amount of love can ever satisfy because it’s a bottomless pit. They do not care how many hearts they break, how many people they mislead, how much emotional destruction they cause. It is the feeling of being desired they are chasing, not the connection, not the intimacy, just the high, which is just the opposite of how your brain works and what you want. The crazy part? They will look you in the eye, tell you you’re the only one, and then check their matches before they fall asleep.
Number 7: Stealing and hiding belongings.
Stealing or hiding your money and belongings to watch you spiral. Very chilling, and almost no one talks about this. A narcissist loves to feel like a god because he or she believes they are one, not just powerful, but omnipresent. So they manipulate your environment in tiny, invisible ways, like my roommate did: moving your charger, hiding your keys, taking cash from your wallet all the time, it happened to me.
Shifting the placement of something you know you left on the table. Then they watch quietly as you panic, as you question your memory, as you blame yourself, as you fall into a spiral. They gaslight your environment to break your mind. And when you confront them, they play innocent or become the victim: “You’re always forgetting things.
Stop being so dramatic. It’s not a big deal.” What they are saying is, “I enjoy watching you unravel.” It’s a power trip, a silent domination. You become the unstable one, and they become the calm, rational savior who helps you find the thing they hid in the first place. It’s a psychological chess game, and you do not even know you are on the board.
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