Narcissists do not find a better version of you when they move on. Don’t believe that even for a second. They settle. They compromise not in a mature or evolved way, but in a helpless way because their options shrink with every repetition of their toxic cycle. Their behavior worsens, their charm wears thinner, and people catch on quickly. Eventually, they end up with someone who sees through their facade, tolerates less, and demands less because that is all the narcissist can attract. Let me prove it to you in today’s article.
Here is how to tell when your narcissistic ex is with a downgrade. Let me be very clear about one thing: when I call that new supply a downgrade, I’m not putting them down at all. It’s all about showing you that the narcissist remains a common denominator, and they are forced to settle for less. They do not find something new which is better, and the person who deserves them less. That is all.
Sign 1: Settling for less challenging partners
They settle for someone who doesn’t challenge them. You see, a narcissist thrives when they feel superior, don’t they? The new supply is often someone who will not question, confront, or challenge them because, possibly, they do not know yet. They settle for someone easier to control. But here is the irony: while the narcissist may feel powerful in the beginning of this relationship, over time, they realize there is no depth, no spark, no real connection whatsoever which they felt because of how invested they were in the relationship.
They are not being adored for who they are but for who they pretend to be. And deep down, that narcissist knows it very well that it’s fake. You challenged them. You saw through their facade. You were real. That’s why they tried so hard to break you. The downgrade? They are someone who hasn’t seen the mask slip yet or worse, someone who is okay with the mask. As unbelievable as that sounds, I have seen so many narcissists ending up together. Take my parents, for example. As a child, I saw them hate each other’s guts, but I also noticed that they would enable each other as long as their selfish needs were met. They were okay with ignoring the extreme toxicity they were creating in our home environment. That is how it is.
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