Confrontation and emotional manipulation
When this narcissist is confronted, he becomes the victim. The most ironic thing about this narcissist is that the moment you confront him, hold him accountable, and ask him, “Why aren’t you working?” the moment you dare to question and corner him, he flips the situation on its head. Suddenly, you are the villain. He will stage an emotional breakdown, play the victim with Oscar-worthy theatrics, and make you feel guilty for even questioning him. All of a sudden, his blood pressure is shooting up. All of a sudden, he wants to kill himself. He may throw money at you dramatically, shouting, “Here, take your money! I don’t want this! Is this what you want?” as if you should be ashamed for expecting financial responsibility from him.
He may threaten to harm himself, as I said already, turning the confrontation into a crisis where you are forced to comfort him instead of addressing the real issue. He may also guilt-trip you into silence, making you feel like a monster for demanding that he step up and contribute. And this is where this cycle continues because no matter how many times you try to escape this financial manipulation, his ability to shift blame, turn the tables, and emotionally blackmail you keeps you stuck.
Personal experience, a family’s struggle
Now, you may ask, how do I know all of this? I have seen this firsthand and experienced it to a certain degree. My maternal grandfather was exactly this man. He still is. He spent his life using, manipulating, and financially draining everyone around him, including his children primarily my mother, who is also a narcissist. He groomed people into earning for him while he did nothing but prioritize his comfort. And the consequences of his neglect were drastic. His children suffered all of them. They had to raise themselves. They had to find ways to survive in a world that should have been made safe for them.
A narcissist like this does not just destroy one person; he destroys generations. His selfishness is a curse that extends far beyond his existence. His children grow up in financial instability, carrying their trauma into adulthood, and often unknowingly passing down the same patterns of dysfunction to their children. A life destroyer, not just a cheap man such a narcissist is not just a cheap man syndrome.
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