Number 5: Don’t react, just observe and walk
The most dangerous thing you can do to a narcissist is stay calm, not the fake calm where you’re seething inside but smiling outside, not the suppressed calm that’s waiting to explode, but the real calm. The kind that comes from no longer being hooked, the kind that comes from nervous system regulation. It comes from not needing to fix, fight, explain, or prove, just watching, seeing them clearly, just noticing. You stop arguing, you stop asking for decency, you stop trying to make sense of the nonsense. And in that stillness, they panic. Because narcissists depend on your emotional reaction to feel powerful.
They need your anger, your tears, your confusion, your begging. If they can’t get love, they’ll settle for rage. But when there’s nothing to settle, not even hate, they’re left with themselves, and they can’t stand being alone with themselves. So you just walk not to hurt them, not to teach them a lesson, but because you’ve outgrown the game. You see it for what it is: the manipulation, the baiting, the hot and cold, the gaslighting, the brainwashing, all of it. You’ve seen the pattern so many times that it no longer moves you.
You just need to acknowledge it, you need to embody it, and that’s what will set you free. Because all of this together will bring you closer to your true self. And when you become one with who you are, I can tell you from my experience, you’ll be repulsed and disgusted by fake, by what isn’t authentic. Because you’ll want authentic.
You’ll want to be surrounded by people who can be vulnerable, who can be their real selves, because that’s how you’re operating. So just take whatever you can from what I shared with you and try to practice it in real life. That’s when I’ll feel I’ve helped you.
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