Number 1: When you sleep, the nightmare of peaceful sleep.
Peacefully, you would think that sleep is just sleep, a basic human need. But for a narcissist, watching you sleep peacefully is a nightmare. Why? Sleep is a form of self-care. It is you disconnecting from their chaos. It is you recharging your batteries, healing, and existing without them without needing them. And that bothers a narcissist deeply. They cannot stand the fact that you can find comfort without them and safety in your mind without needing their approval. Because deep down, they want you to feel like you’re never safe unless they are involved.
Some narcissists will go as far as creating drama right before you go to bed, picking fights, bringing up issues, or making passive-aggressive comments that trigger you so that you keep asking for more. They want to disturb your rest because if you are exhausted, you are easier to control the next day. Less energy means less resistance. If you have never woken up emotionally feeling drained before your day even starts, it’s probably because they planted that seed the night before.
The biggest power a narcissist may have over you is causing so much confusion that you cannot see the difference between right and wrong. And when you are sleep-deprived, you will always be in a mental fog, unable to think clearly. That is when narcissists gain the upper hand. Not only that, but they subtly destroy your sleep without you noticing. When you are asleep, they may use heavy equipment, bang things, stomp, talk excessively, or slam doors, ensuring you never get proper rest.
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Number 2: The power of eating in peace.
When they see you eating peacefully, there’s something so powerful about sitting down to eat your meal in peace and minding your business, just enjoying that moment. For a narcissist, it is unbearable when you do that because, in that moment, you are showing self-love. You are not needing them. As with sleep deprivation, you’re nourishing yourself. You’re prioritizing your body, and you’re enjoying life without them being the center of attention. It’s pathetic, but it’s true.
Narcissists hate that. They hate seeing you content and focusing on fulfilling your needs. What do they do? They disturb it. You may notice they will start an argument, bring up a sensitive topic, or even throw a sarcastic comment your way, anything to destroy your appetite. They do not want you to be hungry. That’s why a lot of survivors lose hunger in such relationships. Are you one of those? Let me know in the comments.
They know that if you are distracted, you are easier to control. They want you anxious, insecure, and hungry. When you’re hungry, you are not able to think clearly, and that is known to that narcissistic piece of… Instead of eating food, they want you to eat their insults so that your body is filled with psychological toxicity. And that’s the reason why your stomach shuts down. This is also why your gut is destroyed because nothing goes in through your ears except stress and chaos. That is what they feed you, and that’s why your body shuns food.
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