Number three: The threat of ‘me time.’
When they see you enjoying “me time,” now this is a big one. Whether it is drinking your tea, reading a book, sipping your coffee, journaling, or simply sitting in silence, narcissists despise your “me time” because you’re seen as a slave. And that is why they do not let you reconnect with yourself. They do not want you to reflect. They do not want you to think. They do not want you to enjoy your own company because they know that’s dangerous.
Why? Well, “me time” means emotional independence. It means you’re not relying on them for validation. And more than that, it means you are being introspective. You are questioning them. They do not want that internal exposure to happen. They do not want you to see them for who they are. They want you to believe the mask. They want you to think, “Oh yeah, maybe they’re not that bad.” They want you to live in that trance. But when you sit with yourself, when you take that time out of your day, when you just gaze off into nothingness, you gain a lot of insight from your subconscious mind. And that is a big no-no to that narcissist.
And that’s why you get attacked the most when you’re sitting, when you’re relaxing, when you’re doing nothing. They may just give you random tasks like, “Do this, do that.” If they have nothing to fight about, they’ll say, “Why aren’t you feeding our baby? Why aren’t you cooking already? Why are you doing this? Why are you wasting time? Go do something. Why are you being so lazy?” It’s not about any of these things. It’s about the rejection that they are afraid to experience if somehow you wake up from that psychological coma they have put you in through the crazy shape-shifting behavior they exhibit.
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