Connecting the dots, hidden truths
But then, all our assumptions were proven wrong with that one event. When that one thing happened, everything started becoming clear. I was able to connect the dots because he had a very weird relationship with one of my other aunts, who is promiscuous by nature. I would say borderline narcissistic but sexually promiscuous. She does not care about who it is she is trying to have a relationship with, as long as she gets her fuel and can run away with it. She will do it.
He always preferred to spend time with her more than my other aunts. He would drop hints and say things like, “Yeah, why don’t you call her over? It’s fine if she spends a couple of nights with us. I don’t hate her. I don’t mind her spending time here.” But the other aunts? “Don’t ever mention them. I don’t even want to see their shadow.” Now, I am fully convinced that when both of them were left alone, they did things that I did not even want to talk about.
But I’m sure the cheating was present. That sexual betrayal was present, and my mother did not take serious action about it, which she should have done. And I know some things about her which I’m not ready to talk about. There is so much shame. There is so much shock that I’m still processing because I got to know about things. I found out things that I’m still trying to process.
A part of me still is in disbelief, wondering, “Can that be real? How can she do it? Or how can he do it?” Because they never acted that way. They never made it obvious. They were not talking to people, but now this has come out, and she was doing it all the while. She was pretending to be a victim of my father. So, both of them are the same person in this regard.
Read More: Why Narcissists and Empaths Result In A Toxic Partnership?
Sharing Is Caring!
