They blame the relationship. They blame the situation. They blame the circumstances. And they convince themselves that somewhere out there is greener grass, better people, more perfect circumstances, more perfect situations. But the ultimate wisdom they cannot face is that the grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it. That is what I want you to think about.
Narcissists do not know how to nurture anything, so it remains lifeless. It grows dry. They do not know how to invest. They do not grow things; they burn them. They are called Dementors. They keep chasing illusions, believing that if they just start over somewhere new, it will all be perfect again. That is such a black-and-white way of living. Their life is a life of endless escapes. It’s a curse that they live with.
On the surface, living your life with a mindset of “grass is greener on the other side” looks like confidence, ambition, and a refusal to settle. But the truth is, it’s not freedom. It’s a prison disguised as choice. Narcissists are trapped in an endless loop. They move from one partner to another, one job to another, one dream to another. But every time, the pattern repeats. The problem is them. They’re the common denominator. The initial high, the rush of newness, the intoxication of the idealized fantasy, and then the crash. The same disappointment, the same emptiness, the same haunting need to escape, to chase yet another illusion.
You and I both know they do not find it better. They find different. And it feels exciting for a while. It gives them the illusion of progress, the illusion of change. But different isn’t always the answer. Neither is it better. Different is just unfamiliar, as I said. And when the newness fades, when reality settles in, they find themselves standing in the same place empty, unsatisfied, and still aching with the void they so tried to outrun.
In their desperate chase for better, they destroy what was already good. They burn bridges that did not need burning. They walk away from love that could have been nurtured, from stability that could have grounded them, from relationships that could have grown into something meaningful had they been brave enough to face their demons, enough to stay. But they aren’t brave. They’re cowards. Staying means facing their insecurities.
It means accepting imperfections, both their own and others’. It means giving up the fantasy and confronting reality, the very thing they fear most. So they run again and again, leaving behind a trail of broken people, lost opportunities, and the kind of love that only grows when watered, tended, and allowed to deepen over time. They have zero patience for any of this.
Every time they move on, they believe the problem was the soil, never realizing it was their refusal to stay long enough to let anything grow deep within and without. That is the curse of the “grass is greener” syndrome not a life of freedom, but a life of endless escapes where nothing is ever enough because they are never enough for themselves.
Now that you know you are not the problem, how are you processing things? Let me know in the comments, and I will talk to you in the next one. Until then, as always, let the healing begin and continue.
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