Number 4: I need to have more than just a fun time.
We all have our own unique expectations when it comes to a relationship, and that’s perfectly all right. Expectations, if expressed to the other person, can give structure and shape to your relationship, and help the other person know what you are looking for. If you are dealing with a partner who can’t seem to get that, however, you may just not be all that compatible with one another.
If you are growing frustrated that the other person isn’t looking for the same thing, or that they aren’t taking your relationship seriously enough, telling them that can go a long way. You can type something like, “I need to have more than just a good time to feel happy with you,” or, “I need something more serious than this,” if you want to be clear about why the relationship failed.
While the other person may not be pleased, it may also just be a good way to open the door to a more adult conversation and could help to give both of you some closure.
Number 3: You haven’t been there for me.
Life can be hectic, and it can be easy to let things fall apart a little while you focus on more pressing matters. This is an extremely common way that relationships end, and it can be hard to not feel like there was a lot of wasted potential when it does.
It can be easy to play the blame game when breaking things off with a partner who has let your relationship slip down their list of priorities, but this isn’t in your best interests. This person wasn’t there for you, and as much as it can feel good to lash out at someone who didn’t respect your feelings, it ultimately isn’t going to change things.
Leaving things with a, “You haven’t been there for me,” or, “I want to be with someone willing to put in more effort,” is a good way to make it clear how hard things have been, and to begin moving on.
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