Third, the devaluation games begin with the narcissist.
Once the initial attraction stage is ended, the narcissist will begin to deploy manipulation and devaluation tactics onto the super empath. If greater narcissists are self-aware of their traits and maladaptive behaviors, then we have to know more about why they devalue them in the first place. When we asked the anonymous narcissist what the goal of devaluing is, he said, ‘Usually, the goal is to let them know that they cross me and to punish them for it.
It depends on the context and severity of their behavior, though.’ We asked him if his behavior like devaluing was deliberate. ‘Yes, I act deliberately,’ he said. ‘Sometimes, when in the moment, the specific manipulation tactics I used aren’t clear to me. But once I break it down later on, I’m able to easily identify them. Unfortunate for the narcissists but great for empaths.’ We’re brought to our next point: the super empath doesn’t tolerate abuse or mistreatment like a typical empath.
A super empath is always willing to listen to their partner’s perspective, even if they’re being critical. In the past, unlike narcissists, they were receptive to constructive criticism and acknowledged that they had room to improve. However, because of their high self-esteem, they aren’t going to absorb all criticism from their partners and take it to heart if they aren’t warranted.
Due to a super empath’s natural good nature, they know when their partner’s critiques are valid because if they had done something worth criticizing, they’d feel remorse. A super empath uses their empathy to feel their partner’s pain. They know when the pain was caused as a direct consequence of their actions, and they’ll accept responsibility.
They can also use their empathy to sense when their narcissistic partner is exaggerating the super empath’s wrongdoings and the pain that they suffered at their hands. They use their accurate sense of what is morally right and wrong to assess whether they deserve the mistreatment. And if they decide the mistreatment isn’t warranted, they won’t hesitate to hold them accountable.
Curious about how the narcissist handles a super empath holding them accountable, we ask the anonymous narcissist how he combats it. ‘Feigning ignorance, such as saying, ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about,’ is a great tool to gaslight people. You are simultaneously deflecting blame while sowing doubt in the accuser’s mind.
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