Number 2: The person you fell in love with in the beginning is just a reflection of you.
Many people will say that the person you met initially doesn’t exist; however, that’s not exactly right. The person does exist because the person they pretend to be is essentially you.
Narcissists do something called mirroring at the beginning of the relationship. This is one of the reasons a lot of times a target will feel as though they’ve met their soul mate because you and this new suitor of yours seem to be so similar. In reality, all that’s happened is that the target has fallen in love with someone who reflects all of your core values, has the same life dreams and aspirations as you do, and likes and enjoys the same things you enjoy.
Top this with some good old-fashioned love bombing and getting the target to believe that the narcissist only has eyes for them, and this can be a toxic combination for the target, getting them hooked, and now all the narcissist has to do is reel them in.
Number 3: Their biggest fears revolve around losing.
Not getting exactly what they want, even if it’s at your expense or someone else’s, being exposed for being this type of person and held accountable for their exploitative and deceitful behaviors. That’s essentially their biggest fears all rolled into one.
Of course, if you or any other normal human being knew this is what they feared the most in life, you would realize that this person is disturbed, and you would want to distance yourself immediately.
So they do not ever want you to truly understand what motivates them, obviously because if you did, you would realize they are human beings who are motivated for their self-interests exclusively.
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