Background: College Years with a Narcissist
Here is a little bit of background before I talk about the main topic. I used to live with this narcissistic roommate a long time ago during my college years. We were studying the same course; therefore, we thought, why not live together? Because he also came from the same culture, and we used to live far away from our home state, we thought, let’s make it easy for both of us because we speak the same language, we like the same food, we have similar interests, so it will be better for us, and we will adapt easily because those were the early years in college. In the beginning, he came across as a very humble guy who followed certain morals, values, who was religious, knew right from wrong, but all of this was proven wrong.
The Downward Spiral: Theft and Gaslighting
As time passed, a couple of months down the line, I found him stealing stuff from the grocery store. When I caught him red-handed, he didn’t show any remorse, no embarrassment, nothing whatsoever. He laughed it off and said, “They charge us a lot of money; why not take this much from them? It’s a big store; it doesn’t hurt them. It’s only a couple of items, and they are a big company; don’t worry about it.” I was shocked, and in that moment, I started wondering, who is this person? On one hand, I see him praying every single day, and on the other, he goes down when nobody is watching and intentionally wears loose clothes to steal as much stuff as possible.
The problem didn’t stop there. He started stealing money from me and was a heavy gaslighter. As I have talked about this before, he blamed it on evil spirits, demonic spirits, that they were doing it to me. How was he able to do so? Because I had shared some spiritual experiences with him that I used to see things as a child, I used to have visions, and so on. That is the information he took advantage of and armed against me, convincing me that I was probably making all of this up, maybe I never had that much money to begin with, maybe I never put that money in my wallet. You know how it is with a narcissist who knows how to convince you that you’re the crazy one.
He didn’t stop there. He got jealous of me, jealous of who I am and what I had to offer. I used to work really hard, study really hard, and that is what he did not want to happen because he himself was a failure. He was driven by instant gratification; he would never study, never spend time, a big cheater. Then, as time passed, his intention became very clear, and that was to bring me down, destroy me, and my mental health. Unfortunately, that started to happen.
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